Independence-Unworthiness Paradox

The strong desire for any form of independence, whether it is emotional financial or physical, is a mere mask to cover for the desire of “need”.

It goes as far as self-development becoming the new gateway to conceal the desperation. This is where people get stuck in loopholes and never-ending cycle of constant healing sessions. It is because the root of all illusions hasn’t been addressed.

The root of all lies in the feelings of unworthiness; unworthy of love, help, inner peace, abundance and more. It is the deepest wound yet the most powerful. It either sabotages or activates one’s entire life.

It’s been programmed that needing someone is desperate, not that it is not, however, as everything else in our world has been reversed, so has this too. Needing another is not a weakness, it is rather the natural habitat of which our essence lies within. God sends us people and experiences in our life as answers to our prayers. It is not the “need” that creates the desperation, it is the desperation for the need. The reason why the structure of the statement is vital is due to the intention set by the desire. The motivation for an action sets forth the behavior confronted to the world. If the catalyst is inorganic, such that it is based on an illusion, it will only deepen the wound & keep the individual further away from their true essence and alignment.

If the desire is to create a baby, one needs a partner. If the desire is to build a company, the need is to have a team. However, if one is desperate for a team to build an empire, the mere attachment to the outcome is what destructs the natural process and flow. Therefore, leading to stagnation and depletion of the individual. The destruction of the natural flow of the process projects a false identity of independence.

The desperation comes through the identification with the feelings of loneliness. The loneliness stems from the construct of disappointment for one is “meant” to live up to the individual’s expectation (if they “truly cared or loved”). Meanwhile, the need for a “service” or a “brother/sister” is rather a completion set by the laws of the universe. It is not to bypass feeling lonely, it is through feeling unified with the universe and it is the natural right for receiving assistance from God. It comes from a place of wholeness and acceptance.

Thus, it is not independence we seek, it is rather inter-dependence.

One cannot possibly encompass self-love if the program of feeling unworthy is deeply rooted in their subconscious. As a matter of fact, it is a critical route to take for that will take one away from any self-love programs. It is still the constant chase for external validation and approval. To self-love is to acknowledge one’s complete surrender in the deepest state of the unknown. To self-love is to acknowledge one is loved by God/Source. Any other form of self-love is an illusion. It is another mask that can be seen once there’s a total demolition of all idols (intellectual, ideeological, physical, or dogmatic).

This program runs to make people feel this way as it keeps the individual separated from God and experiencing eternal love. Feeling unworthy is main block to knowing or feeling God’s presence, love, and trust. One cannot experience true love of God when the unworthy programs runs in their system; and to experience the true eternal love of God is the key to sovereinghty. Anything other than that is a loop made to keep individuals stuck in the programs of insufficiency and unfulfillment. Thus, the consistency in seeking eternal validation. This can be seen in the behavior of people seeking approval or validation for reinforcement of their current state. It is the reason for many feeling depressed for they feel a lack of validation in their life.

“All roads lead to Rome”; all roads lead to one absolute truth. True independence is inter-dependence. Interdependence is experienced when one truly encompasses the knowing of the eternal love of God.